It’s okay to say no
College is stressful.
If you asked a college student how the semester was going, this is probably what they would say. Between going to classes, doing homework, participating in clubs, working a job and going out with friends, it seems almost impossible to find time to sleep, eat or relax. One thing that many college students have a problem with is agreeing to do too many things. There are only so many hours in a day and only so many things you can accomplish at one time. As students, it is important to learn to say no. If a friend asks for help to set up for a club’s movie night, but you have a huge test to study for, it’s okay to say no. If your roommate wants to go to a movie, but you have a paper that’s due in two days, it’s okay to say you’d rather stay home. If everyone in your hall is going to a party, but you’d rather stay in and watch a movie, it’s okay to say you don’t want to.
Committing your time to many different things not only adds stress, but the more things you have to do in a day, the less likely it is that you will be able to do your best on each individual thing. You can only focus so much time on things and there will inevitably be tasks that fall through the cracks. Say no and determine which things you do or don’t have time for so you can complete your tasks to the best of your ability.
Now, I’m not saying don’t help your friends or be involved in social activities. The only way to make memories is to experience things and go out with friends. It is important to learn to say no. You cannot do everything, no matter how bad you want to or how hard you try. Saying no to things that are not as important as others will lessen your stress load and leave you more time to focus on the things that do matter. You have to figure out what is important to you and what you want to focus on during your college years. Say no and save yourself the unnecessary stress.