Choose your attire with confidence
There’s a girl walking down the street with blond hair, the perfect bronze tan, long legs, and the curves of a Victoria’s Secret model.
Her makeup is done flawlessly and her hair has the perfect beach curls every girl desires, but can never seem to achieve. She has on a low cut pink tank top that is a little bit see through to see her pink bra to match.
Her shorts show off her leg muscles that don’t even seem to move when she sways her hips as she walks. As she walks down the street, every man turns his head to look at this perfection. But is she truly perfect?
This idea is all men think about. This is their expectation of a true woman. When you imagine this woman, does she truly seem happy with herself?
She may have that confidence for a bit while every man stops and stares in her direction, but later that night, when she takes off the bold eye liner and expensive foundation, is she still that confident about herself?
Men have this expectation of the perfect woman, and looks are all that matter. I know all of you say that you’re different, every girl hears it every time she meets a new guy and is skeptical about his opinion of her, but if all of you are saying that you’re different, are you truly?
Please tell me if you looked at the girl who was right behind that ideal woman who was in sweat pants, a T-shirt, and walking with her head down.
But, enough with the men bashing. Ladies, when was the last time you felt truly confident with yourself without feeling like you were showing a little too much?
Or possibly searching for the attention of a guy because you’re getting a little tired of hanging out with the girls or having Netflix marathons every night?
You need to feel confident in jeans and a T-shirt. But, at the same time, have the confidence to go out in a dress that does make you feel a little sexy. You need to dress the way you want men to treat you.
For example, if you’re wearing a belly button shirt and shorts that show off your cheeks, expect men to only want a one-night-stand and don’t be offended if that’s what they do.
If a guy takes interest in you while you’re in sweat pants and no makeup, he’s definitely interested in your personality. But you must also find your happy medium. Ladies, be confident enough to wear cute clothing, but also have enough self-respect to say no to a guy that you can tell is just going for a one-night-stand.
Altogether, gentlemen; please learn to respect women whether they are in heels and a skirt or sweatpants and no makeup.
Ladies, please learn to have enough self-respect to realize that you are valuable and you don’t need to wear clothing that show more than your comfortable with.
Everyone has value; learn how to use it.
If there was a girl walking down the street that looked exactly like you described, I am positive, she would have confidence beyond the time frame that all the boys were looking at her. The amount of work that goes into physically looking that way, with “leg muscles that don’t even seem to move when she sways her hips as she walks” it takes dedication and constant effort to keep them in said shape. That level of commitment to that level of physique builds an individual’s level of confidence in themselves not to mention the endorphins that are released during her work outs. So yes I am sure that she is still confident when she takes her eye liner off, because when someone chooses to be in that level of shape that confidence follows you past what you are wearing.
Men don’t have an “expectation” of a perfect woman, it’s a fantasy. We understand that women are never going to look as good as the air brushed models that grace the pages of a Victoria Secret catalog, and if they don’t then they just haven’t learned a damn thing about Photoshop. Saying that men are expecting women to be so amazing looking that they are right out of the pages of a magazine is just as sexist as a man actually expecting that. That being said, every guy would notice the girl in sweat pants and a T-shirt walking with her head down behind the super model if for no other than the stark contrast between the two individuals. It has nothing to do with how “poorly” or not she is dressed. They could be super tight sweat pants and T-shirt that show a lot of physical definition and she could be in just as good of physical condition… and to be honest I bet more men would be interested in her because she seems a lot more approachable than the first one.
The tone of your article, paints her as a down trodden individual that is lacking self-esteem, by virtue of her head being down, when that may not be the case. You bash a man because you say he wouldn’t notice the second girl but you don’t paint her with the same vivid brush that you did the first and it’s not fair to them.
Tell me if he positions were not reversed, say an underwear model for GQ was walking down the street shirtless with perfectly styled hair, and designer jeans followed by an average looking gentlemen that had on a large baggy T-shit some cargo pants and thick glasses with messy hair that women would be ignoring the first one and taking note of the second guy. We are human and models are meant to be aesthetically pleasing.
As for the rest of your article I agree with the tone of most of it. Men want women who are confident, if you are confident to rock the sweat pants and T-shirt look then do it! Your clothing shouldn’t be what lands you looks of approval from anyone let alone the look of the opposite sex.
If you want to wear a “belly button shirt and shorts that show off your cheeks”, you have every right to, it by no means causes a man to “expect” a one night stand and to say that all men are after only such a thing just because a girl is ok with showing some skin again is sexist. Same with a guy going for a girl in sweat pants and no makeup, it doesn’t mean that he is interested in your personality, he could see you as an easy target to get some.
Respect, I agree that men need to learn to respect women in whatever they are wearing.
Ladies, you don’t need to wear clothing that shows more than you are comfortable with, but there is a huge difference between having enough respect for yourself to walk out looking like you got hit by a truck and don’t put any effort into what they look like. There is a huge range of levels of appearance between sweat pants and T-shirt and a tan, toned, skimpily dressed VS model. And sorry if a guy looks to the girl that has taken more time with her appearance than to the one that threw on some clothes and walked out of the house. That guy probably isn’t the right guy for you in the first place, your values obviously are not on the same page. Don’t sell yourself short because someone doesn’t pay attention to you just based on looks, if looks matter to you, you will make them a priority.
Okay, this article is totally heterosexist. I think it’s sh*tty to say something like “This is all men think about,” or “Men have this expectation of the perfect woman, and looks are all that matter.” You know what? That’s a load of bullsh*t. I don’t think with my package 24/7, and I’m confident that neither do 80% of other guys I hang out with. I’m sorry if there has ever been a woman who has had a bad experience because of some guy, but not all guys are asses like those people who yell out “Eyyy,” thinking that they are going to get laid if they catcall.
And so what if a woman wants to wear clothes like that? She can make her own damn choices; let her wear what she wants! Maybe some people enjoy making their appearance sexual. SO WHAT? By saying stuff like that, you are making it sound like the sexual side of humanity is something to be ashamed of. Spoiler alert: it’s not.
I respect a lot of good women; it takes some guts to carry around a fetus for nine months without going completely insane. However miss, you do not have my respect because you insinuated that men are pigs. Next time you decide to write about gender, you should really take the time to think about what exactly you are saying.