Learn to say no

Are you a “yes man” or a “yes woman?” Many of us say yes to unnecessary tasks every single day that make our lives harder than they need to be for us. Maybe we do it because we are “people pleasers” and we aim to impress, but in the end it just causes more stress. We all should learn to say no every now and then for the sake of our sanity.
What are some situations where it’s appropriate to say no? Although we love our friends, sometimes we do unnecessary things to please them. We might meet up with a friend, run errands for them or fill in at work for them. Before taking on these tasks, ask yourself if you truly have the time.
Don’t overload yourself with these situations if you have other priorities. Most people pleasers will probably not be impressed with this advice, but if you have true friends they will understand when you say no. ‘
Another situation where many people feel they can’t say no is if they’re involved in a club or a committee. It’s great to be involved in clubs and committees, but only take on as much as you can handle. Put in some effort, but don’t take on so many tasks that you stress yourself out.
How do we say no? Certain situations don’t allow us to say no, especially if it’s a request from a boss. However, we can say no to the situations we can control.
Try to have confidence in yourself when saying no and be honest with the person or group that you don’t have the time or the resources. You could explain to them that you have other important things going on in your life that take first priority.
Why should you say no? Saying yes to every task that we’re asked to do can overload us and cause stress and anxiety. If you say no every once in a while, you’re respecting yourself and putting yourself first. You may notice that you are accomplishing more in your life by saying no sometimes.
I’m definitely not promoting selfishness, but times exist where we just need to learn to say no. When someone spreads themselves too thin, they often end up not doing a quality job anyways. Say yes to the things you’re passionate about and put your all into it. Learn to say no every once in awhile and you just might notice some of your stress being taken away.