Don’t let over thinking over take you

I have always been a very timid person. I do not like large crowds, I hate loud places and I tend to over think every social situation. 

Over thinking and anxiety take over my mind quite often. Maybe I said something wrong? What if that’s not what someone wanted? I guess I just should have done something better. I am slowly starting to take all of those anxieties and push them out of my thoughts to become a better person not only for myself, but also for my friends. 

Not worrying about anything is truly hard. I often over think the smallest of (non-existent) problems. I come up with better situations at a later date and try to ease my mind, but it never helps.

Here is what I have been working on to overcome my over thinking habit that is much more effective than just temporary easement. 

First of all, I tell myself to just be you. Be yourself, if someone is going to judge you for being you that is their problem, not yours. You are a living breathing person, unique to you and you only, so own that. Don’t let your own worries and doubts bring you down. 

Second, if you are having internal struggles, tell a friend. The best of friends will always care about your problems. Often sharing your struggles with those you love can help you re-think the situation. 

Third, most of your anxiety cannot hurt you. The hypothetical problems in your head will all be resolved whether you have made them up or not. Just take a breather and soon you’ll be able to move on. 

Finally, go have fun. I have been focusing on letting go of my timidness, keeping my shy self on the inside and enjoy myself at social outings. 

When your anxiety is overwhelming, and those made up scenarios are too much and you feel overcrowded, just know that you are awesome and you can own life. Do not let your shy side keep you from being your best self. You can do so much more than just worry about life. If you do mess up, own up to it, then make your self better. Learning from your mistakes and being able to move on is the best way to get past your over thinking habit.