Clean the toxicity out of your life

No matter what you are doing or where you are in life, you are bound to get tangled up with some toxic people. It doesn’t just happen when you are young, there will always be  people on this earth that will not be good for you. A toxic person is usually  abusive, non-supportive, or emotionally unhealthy—someone who basically brings you down more often than up. 

This can be a friend, a family member or even someone you consider your partner.

Since these relationships can vary, it can sometimes be hard to accept the fact that they are toxic. This can be difficult to come to terms with. Most people who have to deal with this for so long come to the end of a rope where they just can’t deal with that person anymore. It can be scary to cut ties with this person because often times we become dependent on them. 

In some cases, it is hard to see that a person is toxic. Some of the signs you can look for in a toxic person is the blame game, isolation, no respect for your boundaries, and feeling like you’re always walking on eggshells. 

With the blame game, they will always spin the narrative/event to make it seem like your fault. They want you to feel guilty even if they are actually responsible. That toxic person will also refuse to apologize. They won’t take responsibility for their actions in any form. They will constantly play the victim.

As for isolation, they will try to take up all of your time and get mad when you try to spend time with someone else. 

They feel like they need your attention more than anyone else. They will shame you for not getting all of your time. They will make you feel like garbage for spending time with others.

Toxic people do not accept boundaries. They step right over boundaries you’ve just laid down, no matter how simple. 

They will again make you feel bad for setting boundaries and trying to stand up for yourself. People who are toxic tend to not like those who grow a back bone against them. 

They want to be in complete control. They don’t want you setting boundaries they have to obey. Ultimately, they won’t.

When you are around a toxic person, you constantly feel the need to walk on eggshells. 

Toxic people thrive on emotional outbursts and things of this nature, which leads to the need to walk on eggshells. You can’t be your full self, or even feel like you can speak because they will turn your words around and use them against you. They will make you feel like a bad person for having an opposing opinion. They will even turn a casual hangout into a public spectacle of themselves and throw you under the bus just to gain the attention they desire.

Although these are just a few of the most toxic traits psychologists have complied, I encourage that if you have a friend or anyone that exhibits these behaviors, then cut them from your life. 

Their negativity and sad sense of self is not worth your peace and happiness. I do realize this is much easier said than done, but once you rid them from your life, you will have a huge weight lifted off your shoulders.