Focus on improving instead of excuses

Life sucks sometimes. That’s all there is to it. Sometimes life likes to come and kick the door down and ruin the party. 

It can be really hard to bounce back from the things that tear us down. There are so many forms that these terrible things can come in. Sometimes stuff is going on with your family, school, work, mentally, physically, or those unlucky times when it happens to be everything above. It can be hard to try and overcome these things.

Sometimes you never fully recover and that can also be hard. I think most of us have likely gone through longer periods of time when we’ve thought like this and felt pretty glum and like there is a little rain cloud over our heads.

Life is going to test you, but you can’t let it get the best of you. You have to think about how to  improve instead of why you can’t. 

If you only have thoughts that are similar to “why me?” or “why does this have to happen right now?”, I can guarantee that’s going to make things worse. 

If you keep thinking about how things aren’t going your way you will be stuck in a sad place. Try to think of how to improve, how to take little steps to get out from under the little rain cloud. 

You can build yourself back up slowly, but surely. Yes, that can be difficult and take time, but it will be well worth it.

You can also remind yourself that this is temporary. That whatever is going on in your life is only going to last a little bit. Now the actual timeline of “a little bit” will vary between people and situations, but you will get better. 

Even if the entire last week or few days of your life have been miserable, busy, and things are just not going your way, no matter what give it time. 

Try to be kind to yourself in this period of bad luck. You can’t control everything, you can learn and grow from this, just give it time.

Let’s say you’ve tried all of this and it doesn’t help, let it out. This can take shape in many different ways. 

Maybe you need to talk to a friend or a counselor. Those are both perfectly fine and acceptable. Maybe you just need to start writing everyday to get your thoughts out of your head and on paper. Sometimes seeing and releasing it, in a sense, can be beneficial. 

Weight can be taken off from processing and releasing your problems. Another way is to physically let it out by working out. Running, walking, lifting weights, doing Zumba, or really anything along those lines are good options. Sometimes we get too caught up in our head and need to give our minds a break. That is okay.

If you don’t feel comfortable with any of these but know you need to do something, just talk to someone. Talk to your friends, family, or someone you trust. I am sure any of them would be happy to help you or  even give advice. 

There are always options out there, some may take a bit longer to find that fits you and that is completely okay.