People move on and so should you
One thing people don’t tell you about growing up is how people leave your lives. Sometimes with no explanation and you’re left rattling your brain as to why. If you have anxiety or lower self-confidence it is easy to think that it might be your fault. As we are all growing older and in different directions here are some things to keep in mind if you find your friend group getting smaller.
I think one of the biggest reasons is because life takes you and your friends in separate directions. This is probably the most common because whether you’re moving to a different school, change majors, move off campus, or something of this nature, it creates the right environment for growing apart. That doesn’t mean you or your friend did anything wrong. Your lifestyles change, your schedules change, as well as interests. Sometimes life just changes your path and there isn’t much anyone can do about it.
Another reason is because you are growing as a person. This is a good thing that has “bad” consequences. When I say “bad” I mean that it is just less than desirable outcomes. Finding yourself is one of the best parts of college. Being comfortable with who you are and learning what can/can’t out up with. You start choosing how to spend your time and energy. Some people aren’t going to like that change, and that’s okay. If someone can’t support your growth they don’t need to be in your life. It’s hard to accept but it’s true. When you come to terms with how you act and who you are some things will fall to the wayside including people that once were your friends.
Maturity is something that will happen to you at least once in your life and it can be the most difficult. You can be really close to someone but it’s hard to deal with them because they’re maturity level is on a different level than you. This is hard to deal with since you’re growing at a different pace than they are, and you still want to be friends, but it is becoming too taxing. Learn to let go of people who are causing more harm than good in your life. Many times, maturity-based issues in a friendship is has a serious one-sided component to it. One person is becoming a weight because they’re unaware of their maturity level. It’s okay to let that person go just because they are becoming too great of a problem. Also keep in mind some people might leave you because they’re immature and don’t know how to have a “grown-up” conversation.
These are just three of the biggest reasons why people lose friends. There are plenty of others that happen that aren’t here. But I hope this helps with some of you who might be questioning why friends are revolving through your life all of a sudden. You don’t owe anyone an apology. Even if y’all didn’t end on bad terms that’s okay. You can want to see them eat and it just not be at your table.