You have to make your happy ending
“And then they lived happily ever after.”
Every story I heard as a child ended with the perfect sunset and the main characters live happily ever after.
They defeated whatever bad guy they were up against and then it’s smooth sailing and fun times until the end of time. The rather unfortunate truth of not being a story book character is that life is not one bad guy and then a happy little ride into the sunset.
Sometimes life is annoying and frustrating and nothing seems to work out the way you want it to. Everything feels like too much and you want to give up. And that can make you start to blame yourself or blame the world. Those aren’t good holes to fall into.
It’s really hard to accept the bad days and move past them but that’s what you have to do sometimes. You can’t blame yourself because that doesn’t solve the problem, it will just make the problem worse.
You are the key to your success and the key to your own downfall too. And if you’re constantly beating yourself up then you can’t succeed. Sometimes you will mess up and it really will be your fault.
That’s OK. You just have to accept that you messed something up and figure out how to work on it or fix it. Figuring out how to help yourself is sometimes the hardest part. But remember that although you create your own perspective you aren’t a god. Sometimes things happen that you can’t stop or control.
You just have to roll with the punches and keep getting up even when it’s tough. Give yourself grace and breaks every once in a while. But keep on getting up, it’s how you’ll get better. Not by dragging yourself down with negative talk.
Something that might be helpful to remember is to treat yourself like you would treat your friends. You wouldn’t tell your friend that they are stupid because they had one bad day or one bad test.So, why would you tell yourself that? You deserve the kindness you give to others.
Sometimes it’s easiest to blame yourself and dig a hole. But after a while you’ll realize that the shovel you’re using to dig is pretty heavy and you’re in a pretty deep hole. Put it down and start growing from the times you mess up. Ask your friends for help if you need or even reach out to the counseling services on campus. Anything besides letting yourself get worse is a step in the right direction.
One bad day or one bad test doesn’t define you. How you deal with those things is.
If you start taking steps in the right direction eventually it’ll pay off even if it doesn’t feel like it. When your head is down and you feel bad, you miss all of the pretty amazing things you’re accomplishing on the way. Look up every once in a while and you’ll see how far you’ve come. You just have to start moving forward.
Life moves fast, so don’t wallow in a bad day. Even when it feels easier. Sometimes a good day is just what you make it. Don’t let one bad thing ruin your week or give it the time it deserves and move forward. You deserve to enjoy your life and to get your happy ending.
Your story isn’t over until you get a happy ending even when it seems impossible. Your happy ending might not look like the fairy tales and it might come from a lot more hard work. However, it’s your story, so chase your happy ending and that pretty sunset. It might be work but it’ll be worth it. Your story will just be more interesting than Cinderella’s.
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