Gossip sometimes is what you need to heal

Gossiping is a pass time that many people in every college and high school in the U.S. enjoy. 

In fact, who doesn’t enjoy a good ‘tea time’, I know I do. 

Lets be clear this column is not anti-gossip, in fact it might be pro-gossip. I do however think that there are rules to this. 

For starters, I don’t think that for any reason you should pick a person that you don’t know and start talking about their appearance. I mean what gives you the right to pick a random person and absolutely demean them for no reason. 

The second major rule that I think is important, is that it should never be a lie. There is no reason you should randomly decide that you are going to make something up about somebody and spread it like its the truth. 

The third and final rule is that under no circumstances should you share someones secrets as a way of getting back at them. Using their secrets as a way to get back at someone is just straight up cruel. 

Now all that being said, I think talking about who is dating who or who got a job where, is acceptable. 

Even bad mouthing someone to your friends, as long as its the truth, I think is something that helps all of us heal. 

If someone has done you wrong and you dislike them for one reason or another, I think it is very healing to get out all of the negative thoughts and emotions. 

That being said I also think that its important to get up and move on. You can’t sit in your anger forever and there is only so much bad-mouthing to be done. 

Once you get it out of your system, its time to move on pretend that person didn’t dump you, act like someone didn’t ruin a group project. 

At the end of the day, some times you need to get out all of the gossip out of your system but there are morals behind it. 

I can see how anyone who has had people bad mouth them, which is all of us, could be skeptical about how gossiping can be good. On the other hand who hasn’t gossiped. Even those who have been hurt by it have. 

I can ensure you that as long as you are talking to the right people then it shouldn’t matter, because the hope is that it never leaves that circle. 

Now I am pro-gossip and pro-disliking those that have hurt you, but I would like to say as you grow and mature letting go of those feelings become easier. 

Sometimes the best thing you can do is let go. 

This also includes taking measure of how big of a problem someone is and take into consideration where they are in life. 

Maybe you find out someone doesn’t like you over a small problem or thing you did. Just remember as you get angry maybe that is just where they are in life. 

You have to ask yourself, is this really something that needs to effect me? 

Is it even something worth another thought?

This semester I am trying to enter my ‘I can be the bigger person’ era and I think taking out needless gossip is an important part of that.